I’m excited this morning because I believe God is trying to show me how to view discipline from a new perspective…namely, His. Just thought I would share what I felt the Holy Spirit showing me this morning. Because I feel in the midst of this lesson, it definitely is ministering to me. I hope that it’s an encouragement to you as well!

For this passage, I’m going to substitute the term ‘son’ for ‘child’ right now. I feel as though that has a more personal connotation for me than reading the term ‘son’ for obvious reasons.

-First of all, it’s like God was saying to me directly, “Jenny – have you forgotten that this is an encouraging Truth?! The discipline that you experience is confirming that you are My child! In other words, know that there is a purpose for what is going on; it is more than just coincidence or something to just ‘let roll of your back’ or to be shaken by, but it’s an opportunity to seek My face and to know that I’m in this. Find Me in it!

-A pastor that I work closely with recently gave a message on parenting, and he stressed the fact that when we, as human parents, parent and discipline our children, it must come from a place of love. We must have a relationship with our children in which they know that we love them and have their best in mind, first and foremost. If a child doesn’t know that you love them – whether from neglecting to meet their needs, a lack of time spent with them, or maybe even just from not knowing how they receive love so that you don’t know how to express it in a way that they receive it as love – whatever the reason, if you then approach them in terms of rebuking and correcting their behavior, they will rebel. They will get defensive.

Because they feel alone. They don’t know that you have their best in mind, and so they feel they have to be the only one that will take up that banner for them.

So, thinking about this scripture, I see the truth and emphasis now of connecting the Lord’s discipline with His love, because we have to believe that God is for us – that He has our best in mind – and that there is purpose in what we’re facing in order to receive the discipline (in whatever form) as for our good as well.

And as parents, we can recognize that our children need discipline. They need someone that will instruct and guide and correct them as they’re learning to maneuver through life. And so we, as children, need that as well from our Father.

I don’t know about you, but rebuke to me has always seemed like a harsh word. Other translations say ‘correct.’ I prefer that term. It makes me think about someone correcting my grammar or spelling. And I.love.spell check.
I do.
I love that I can click a little button and it shows me my mistakes, so that I can correct them and the entire world doesn’t have to know that my typing is less than proficient. I may type fast…but not necessarily accurate.  Hard to imagine the world before spell check.

We need to be able to not only receive God’s correction when He gives it, but we need to get to a point where we go to Him, we initiate, like turning on the spell check function on our current device.  We need to ask God to examine our hearts and check its condition.“Those whom I love, I rebuke and discipline. So, be earnest and repent.” Revelation 3:19

-whew. Do I see the difficulties I face, the hard situations, the changes that I don’t welcome in my life, as the Lord’s discipline? Do I see that He is wanting to use these things to develop in me the character that He desires for me to have – one that trusts Him, that submits to His authority and the authority that He places in my life, and one that even welcomes these opportunities because I know that it means that He is accepting me as a child, a child that He is will protect and provide for?

-‘everyone undergoes discipline’ – What is key in this process is perspective, being able to recognize  what we’re facing as God’s method of disciplining us. Sometimes I tend to think of discipline in the form of correction and a consequence for sin, but discipline is also learning the correct way to handle something as well. It’s strength-training, it’s working out spiritual muscles so that they are able to handle the weight of life without breaking and faltering. So, we must ask for God’s eyes to see what we’re facing for what it is – His orchestration of events in order to accomplish His purposes.

And an exciting thing about this is that it allows us to feel like we’re more a part of God’s family. We know that individuals love us when they can speak truth to us, putting the condition of our relationship ahead of the ‘ease’ of the relationship. If I have sin in my life, it’s LOVE for someone to confront that in me, because from there I can move into repentance and change and freedom. It’s not easy, though…but it’s that person telling me they care more about me than what I may think of them in that moment.

And so God is willing to create waves in our lives, and in our relationship with Him, because He knows that it’s for our good and that it will ultimately allow us to have a closer, more intimate relationship with Him. I’ve experienced that with God, and I’ve experienced that in human relationships. I’m much closer to those individual in my life that are willing to go through conflict with me, and see it out to the other side, than those that avoid and neglect.

– I do pray that God would give us eyes to see the Hope to which we have been called to (Ephesians 1:15-23) – hope beyond our current condition, knowing and trusting in the fact that the discipline we receive is shaping us more into Christ’s image, who is our Hope.

The word ‘trained’ makes me think of how we will seek out a trainer at a gym, asking for their instruction and guidance in order to reach the exercise or weight-lifting goals that we’re pursuing. But a trainer’s advice and instruction is worthless unless we receive it and respond accordingly.

God knows us so intimately that He can identify the weak ‘muscles’ in our lives that need to be strengthened. In His Omnipotence, He knows what we will face in the future and what will be require for us to prepare us for those battles, those challenges, those sacrifices. And so He orchestrates, allows -however you want to put it- the discipline in our lives in order to strengthen us, in Him, to face them. He wants to set us up to succeed, if we will just receive both the pleasurable and not so pleasing things from His Hand.

Lord, may we learn to accept both the pleasant and unpleasant things in life as from Your hand. May we be so enveloped in Your love for us, to know Your love so intimately, that we recognize that You are for us. May we trust Your ways, which are not our own, because we trust You. May we focus our eyes on the Giver, and not the ‘gift’ You’re asking us to receive, so that we know that all things that come from You are good. Because You are good.  

The Lord brought a verse to mind this morning as I was praying, just sitting down at my desk at work, and since it seemed a little random, I knew there must be more to it and I needed to investigate.

“Yet I will ever praise You, Lord.”

The first Google search for this led to Psalm 71:14, “As for me, I will always have hope; I will praise you more and more.” (This translation changed the wording a little bit, but others actually said, ‘I will ever praise you.” But still – I will always have Hope. Isn’t that true?

In Jesus Christ, we will always have Hope.Period.

Nothing can change that.
Nothing will change that.

Even when our feelings lie to us and tell us there is no hope, Jesus still remains our Hope and our Freedom.

Anyways, in reading the whole Psalm, I was surprisingly encouraged this morning with a new perspective. I usually have read this passage, and passages like this in the past, thinking of witnessing to other adults, non-believers –

v.15-16
“My mouth will tell of your righteous deeds,of your saving acts all day long— though I know not how to relate them all. I will come and proclaim your mighty acts, Sovereign Lord; I will proclaim your righteous deeds, yours alone.”

Or maybe in order to encourage other believers – “hey, this is what God has done for me. He can do it for you!”

But this morning, the Lord directed my attention to what He has now redefined as ministry to me – one of my first ministries – my babies.

The psalm goes on to say:

v.17-18
“Since my youth, God, you have taught me, and to this day I declare your marvelous deeds. Even when I am old and gray, do not forsake me, my God, till I declare your power to the next generation, your mighty acts to all who are to come.”

“to the next generation.”

My babies. Your babies.

They are kind of a captive audience right now. (Insert semi-evil laugh here)

Maybe you’ve thought of this before. I’m fairly new at this parenting thing, and I’ve been many years with God where ministry, in my mind, was not defined as first to my husband, and second to my family, and then third as the Lord directs. My heart has not always had the right priorities ordered as the Lord intends – and if I’m truthful, most days He is still redirecting my heart. Old lies still sound loudly in my ears and I have a forgetful heart.

However, I was so encouraged as this scripture met me right where I am this morning, sitting at my office desk (where I used to try to find purpose and meaning for my life in ‘ministry’).

The Lord is so gentle and patient with me.

Did you catch part of this passage?
v.15 “My mouth will tell of your righteous deeds,of your saving acts all day long— though I know not how to relate them all.“

To me, this was perfect. I so often feel completely ill-equipped and clueless in where to start with my daughter in telling her about my relationship with Jesus. How do I explain it in terms that she’ll understand, as a now 3 year old? How do I convey the beauty of His life, the riches I’ve received in Him, my depravity without Him?

“thought I know now how to relate them all” – or though I know not how to relate them AT all.

YET my mouth will tell. I will ever praise You, Lord. Until I get better at communicating it to all people on their level, to their understanding, to where they are in their specific season in life. I will just continue on, although it is messy and confusing and I will probably get a lot of weird looks.

(Am I the only one that has a daughter/son that can look at you like you’re absolutely crazy and it makes you feel like you’ve been put in your place? Yep – I will press on despite the Natalie stink-eye.)

Please check out the rest of the Psalm as well. What a great reminder this morning of the GREAT God that we have!

And to further confirm to me that God does have a quirky sense of humor, I searched the words again – because more of the verse came to mind and I started questioning whether or not I had even found the right passage.

And I was led to Psalm 34:1, and this is what I found in several different translations, as a preface to the passage,

NIV: “Of David. When he pretended to be insane before Abimelek, who drove him away, and he left. I will extol the LORD at all times; his praise will always be on my lips.”

NASB:”A Psalm of David when he feigned madness before Abimelech, who drove him away and he departed. I will bless the LORD at all times; His praise shall continually be in my mouth.”

HA! So, when we are continually praising God, it may in fact look like we’ve lost it. Like we HAVE NO CLUE.

Isn’t it crazy to praise a God for His faithfulness in the darkness? When there isn’t enough money in the bank account and your mortgage is due next week? When you’ve been praying for healing and there are no signs of change? When it’s just so hard that you can’t imagine having to face this specific __________ one more day?

“Yet I will ever praise You, Lord. Your praise will continually by on my lips.”

Because the next generation is at stake. Our babies have a front-row seat to our lives and are waiting to see how we will respond in the good and the bad, the uncertainty and in the smooth.

And it’s not going to look perfect. (Can I just add that here as a permission slip for it to never look perfect?! Am I the only one that may read that previous statement and think, “oh the pressure! They’re looking at me!)

It’s not supposed to look perfect. It’s supposed to look real. Real enough that they will later look back on later in life and can relate to it, and know that it was genuine – know that what they are facing isn’t somehow worse or wrong because their mom never seemed to have issues or doubts or trying times. They will look back and say despite that, she did ‘ever praise Him.”

I wrote an earlier post on the topics of honor, integrity, and humility here. Each in and of itself are weighty ideas, so I appreciate those of you that waded through that post with me.

In the midst of writing it, it struck me that sometimes, in order to recognize what something really is, we have to distinguish it from what it is not.

So, this post is all about what honor is not.

Because in the earlier post, we establish that honor has to be grounded in integrity, meaning that it needs to come from an honest, true place. Let me clarify that this has everything to do with the person giving or offering honor, not the recipient.

So what happens when honor isn’t coming from a place of truth?

Two things came to mind (I’m sure there are more, and would love some more examples!).

1. When honor is not grounded in truth, it becomes flattery. Ego Boosting.
(Proverbs 11:3, “The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity.“)

I don’t know why, but I like the word duplicity. Maybe it’s just the sound of it. Regardless, I wanted to know more of what it meant.

Dictionary.com says duplicity is ‘contradictory doubleness of thought, speech, or action; the belying of one’s true intentions by deceptive words or action.’

Ever heard someone say they were talking out of both sides of their mouth? (It’s a peculiar phrase, isn’t it? Anyways…) Well, this is what it is referring to. Speaking one thing, but really you think and believe something different. Or you say one thing to someone, but turn around and contradict your statement to another source.

Hopefully this isn’t something you can immediately identify with. It’s usually not what we’re striving to do. But I would like to challenge us, challenge myself, to really examine our hearts and see if there are times when we ascribe credit -acclaim, praise, give compliments to someone else – when we don’t really mean it.

Maybe there is something about that person that we have a hard time with. A personality conflict. A difference of opinion. And we just have a hard time coming from a place of genuineness when it comes to offering encouragement. It’s going to happen. We will not get along with every person we encounter. And if you were under the assumption that was expected of you, I’m officially taking you off the hook. You can breathe now. There will just be some hard people to get along with.

However, we’re still called to honor others above ourselves. Romans 12:10, “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.”

Why? Because God places immense value on you and me, and them. And what He places value on, if we’re going to seek after His heart and strive to be like Him, we have to as well. And honor is our way of showing that we agree with God.

So, what do we do? We take this knowledge, this command, and we try to do it on our own, in our own power. And the result? Our words become false, not life-giving or uplifting, from a place of ingenuity.


“I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in Me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from Me you can do nothing.” – John 15:5

And if we do this long enough, pretty soon we don’t know the difference between sincere compliments and hypocrisy. We have to make sure that we don’t believe that the lip service we’re offering them, or God, is really honorable.

This may sound harsh, but I do think it’s important to not take lightly the power of our words. Jesus is the Word of God that brings life. And I think that He, in turn, through the Holy Spirit and Scripture, gives us the ability to bring hope and life-giving encouragement with our words. But if our hearts are not in a good place, our words can’t provide that for others.

Luke 6:45b, “For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks.”

In fact, when you can identify a time when offering honest encouragement is difficult, it’s an opportunity to ask God what is it about that situation that is hindering you. This is an opportunity for growth, for God to reveal what is really going on in your heart, and begin to change it so that there are no division between you and others.

So, back to the challenge – if we are going to truly honor, from a place of truth, we have to recognize when we are not being sincere.

On to the second example.

2. When honor is not grounded in truth, it fosters envy and jealousy.
When we are envious of someone else, we are agreeing to the idea that they have something that is better than who we are or what we possess, therefore slighting who God has created us to be.

We are the most susceptible to envy and jealousy when we don’t have a firm foundation of who we are in Christ.  Because we don’t have a clear idea of the person God has created us to be, we will look to the outside to figure out for ourselves or from someone else what is appealing, attractive, and what will give us what we think we need.

But we can’t do that if our feet are slipping, if we’re not standing firmly in the knowledge of who we are in Christ. The knowledge that we are loved, affirmed, and accepted because of what Jesus did for us on the cross allows us to begin to believe verses like Jeremiah 29:11, that He does in fact have a plan and a purpose for us, and that it’s for our good!

The more we receive these truths…that we are loved, accepted, affirmed, adored, delighted in….the more we don’t feel the urge to strive anymore to accomplish or achieve anything in order to be accepted. We don’t have to give anything away to be loved. We don’t have to look to others to affirm us because we are already affirmed by the Father. We can give up the pursuits of trying to accomplish something to make us more acceptable, because Jesus did what we couldn’t at Calvary.

And with this knowledge of who we are in Christ, we aren’t as susceptible to envy and jealousy, because we know God is doing something special in us. We can believe that He has our best at heart and trust that we have what we need. And so we can encourage others in the ways that God has gifted them and in the direction that God has called them.

God always meant for our relationships to be honoring, to build each other up and to spur each other on in our faith and to help each other identify our strengths and the gifts God has given us so they can fulfill the calling He has placed on our lives. 

So, bringing it all together, it’s important that we are able to offer encouragement & honor from a place of truth, because we value what God does. This reflects of the heart of God and brings Him glory.

“Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:9-11